Start with the Warm-Up cards. These cards set the stage and break the ice - think of these cards as an appetizer before the heavy main course.

Once you’ve completed the warm-up, either shuffle the rest of the cards in one pile or arrange them in topic-focused piles with the questions facing down.

Take turns asking and answering every question on the selected card before moving to the next card.

If either of you has a moment of reflection or arrive at a topic you want to revisit later, write it down.

There's no right or wrong way to play the game and no set time frame to finish. It’s ok to take days, weeks, and even months to move through all the questions. If you and your partner want to play over several days, agree to play a certain amount of cards each day and stick to it. 

While we know “gamification” is a popular way to inspire activity, the goal of this game is to connect with each other. So, even if you want to include a competitive element—and there are excellent and creative ways to do this—we think it’s vital that you complete every topic and closely listen to each other no matter how you choose to play it.